It’s all about perspective

To say that this past year has been challenging would be an understatement.

Short version: our hot water heater flooded the house and we spent half a year dealing with unreliable contractors and repair folks, our newborn baby girl cried and cried and cried and rarely slept for the first few months of her life, my job was eliminated while I was out on maternity leave, I’ve dealt with rejection (after rejection, after rejection, after rejection) during the job search, and to top it all off, my car died a week before Christmas; sadly, the 4Runner suddenly became the NoMoreRunner. Seriously, the engine just blew up with no clear explanation as to how or why. You know it’s bad when the mechanic says, “we’ve never seen anything like this happen before.”

There she goes… off to see ya never never land.


Talk about a cherry on top of the worst year ever.

Does anyone know if they make a yearly version of this stuff? Asking for a friend.


Around the start of the new year, I was feeling really discouraged and wondering when (and if) things would start to get better. I said to my husband, “I really hope 2018 is a whole lot better than 2017.” Aaron looked at me and asked why. I gave him a blank stare. And then proceeded to recap all the events listed above, and added “is there anything else you’d like to include on that list?” He laughed and said, “Yeah, it sucked to go through it. But we ended up with a bunch of nice upgrades to our house, God blessed us with a beautiful baby girl, a new job opportunity will come along that will make you happier and more fulfilled, and you get to enjoy some time at home with our kids in the meantime. Oh, and we got a new car. I’d say we had a pretty good year.”

First of all, reality check. Second of all, have I mentioned how wonderful my husband is? Sometimes all it takes is a fresh, Godly perspective to realize that maybe things aren’t as bad as they seem.

This past year has been filled with challenges I never imagined having to walk through. But I realized that because of it, my faith was reaffirmed, my marriage was strengthened, my kids got more attention from me, and my family and friends stepped in and provided the encouragement I needed at exactly the right time.

Yes, it is all about perspective.

Having perspective is evidence of spiritual maturity, and it enables us to handle whatever comes our way in life. Perspective was one of the reasons Jesus was able to endure the cross. He looked past the immediate pain to the long term joy that was set before him.

This year, I’m challenging myself to start seeing things from God’s point of view instead of my own limited perspective.

What are your goals for the new year, and how do you plan to accomplish them?

-Amy ❤



Open adoption

Write the story

Oh, hey there. Welcome to the new blog. In 2009, I started a blog about open adoption called Amstel Life. It was a very personal account of my journey as a birthmother after placing my newborn daughter in an open adoption in 2005 when I was just 18-years-old. I enjoyed writing and found myself getting deeply immersed in the conversation about openness in adoption. Writing was part of the healing process for me, and it felt gratifying to share my perspective and to provide insight about an alternative to abortion that many women didn’t know existed.

Somewhere along the way though, between working, getting married, taking care of two littles, and well, life…I stopped writing.

For some time now, I’ve felt called back to this blogging thing. I’m not a perfect writer, but I believe God has blessed me with the ability to encourage others through my writing and through my life experiences. So I’m dusting off the ole’ keyboard and getting a fresh start with a new blog that focuses on not just open adoption, but issues pertaining to my faith, life as a wife and mother, and my most recent experience of being laid off from my job during maternity leave.

Sharing my struggles and challenges is far outside of my comfort zone, but I am trusting in God to break down the walls and help me to write the story He wants me to tell.

My hope is to write authentically, share the journey, and maybe even encourage someone along the way.

“You’ll use the old rubble of past lives to build anew, rebuild the foundations from out of your past. You’ll be known as those who can fix anything, restore old ruins, rebuild and renovate, make the community livable again.” — Isaiah 58:12

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What is God calling you to do today, that may be outside of your comfort zone?

Thanks for following along. ❤

– Amy